December Light

It’s been six months since I've posted on the blog. How to begin again after such a long and unplanned break? Begin again. One breath after another. One word after another. One thought after another, stretching out stiff limbs, like…

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Braking Habits

I have a vivid memory of sitting in a café with a trusted friend, many moons ago, lamenting my then relationship. I had quite the shopping list. Why couldn’t my 'other half' be different? Why couldn’t all my love and…

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Every Person’s Life

In 1987 renowned Gestalt psychotherapist, Erving Polster, wrote a book called “Every Person’s Life is Worth a Novel”.  In this book he writes: Stories must not only be told, but also heard. What is said gains value from the listeners…

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A Desert Garden

There is a garden that I pass in my neighbourhood when I walk with Lilly in the mornings. It is a desert garden, punctuated with muted greens, spiky leaves, bursts of yellow and purple, and an array of thorny cacti.…

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A Small Window

When I first started writing 'Playing Along' I did so as an antidote to the heaviness of my 'other' work. I had recently completed my masters degree in psychotherapy and I was working with individual clients - adults and children…

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A Wish for My Daughter

My daughter turned twelve this week. I remember twelve.  Something about twelve made me want to linger. Maybe it was because I knew it was my last year before lurching into teenagedom. Somehow at twelve stickers and stuffed animals still…

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Some Like it Hot

Someone close to me went to an earth shift sweat lodge this week. It sounds uncomfortable doesn't it? Apparently it is. This isn't a luxury, sanitized sauna at a four-seasons resort. This is the real deal. You and twenty other…

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Play Me, I’m Yours

I was in London last month visiting my 'other' home. I arrived feeling dislocated.  It's an odd sideways movement returning to a place where you have left roots. A place where  you have made memories... sweet and bitter, clear and…

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Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

Next week I'm leaving my computer. It's just a trial separation.  It's something we've been considering for a while now. I've begun to notice we make each other edgy.  I'm aware of a disturbing co-dependancy. An unhealthy pull. As if…

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Golden Goldberg

Natalie Goldberg, for those of you who are unfamiliar, is an extraordinary woman who paints, writes and guides others in their writing practice.  When I was twenty, I discovered her book "Writing Down the Bones" and devoured it.  The experience…

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